You're exhausted from pretending everything is fine while your brain won't stop catastrophizing worst-case scenarios.
Who I am
Steve Satterfield, Doctor of Ministry (Marriage and Family Counseling)
I have 30 years of full-time experience in therapy as an Army/Federal prison/hospital Chaplain (Major, Reserve and Department of Justice / Federal Bureau of Prisons, Retired), in missions, and in youth ministry. I have the Basic Certificate in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR, for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). I am an American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) Professional Member and am ordained by the Vineyard USA. I was endorsed by the National Association of Evangelicals' Chaplains Commission for 24 years until I retired.
My Treatment Focus
I use an integrative mix of theories, including Solution Focused Brief Therapy (15+ hours Continuing Education), Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP) from the University of Denver, the 5 Love Languages, the 8 Habits of Highly Effective Families / Speed of Trust, Our Home Runs/LINKS/PICK, Family Wellness, Couples' Communication, Active Relationships / Choices, Stronger Families (Oxygen), Prepare / Enrich, the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator, Critical Incident Stress Management, Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST) and Engage Your Strengths
Informed Consent
All information shared is confidential except the Department of Regulatory Agencies in Colorado requirement to report a plan to hurt oneself or others, including child or elder abuse. I am working towards licensure with them. I passed their jurisprudence exam and became a Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate with them in October, 2025.
"Significant evidence is demonstrating that married couples who pray, study scripture, attend church, and otherwise jointly participate in spiritual activities enjoy significantly higher levels of marital happiness and satisfaction." https://adventist.uk/fileadmin/shared-data/resources
COST: None, but please consider donating to my cousins
https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/233
Contact me
Parousia Therapy
DOCTOR OF MINISTRY (WITH A COUNSELING EMPHASIS) AND CREDENTIALS
Recommendations (from Linked In, click the button below)
FranklinCovey, Julienne Stathis, Senior Client Partner
"Steve is passionate about helping Soldiers and their Families. FranklinCovey is so thankful for the work he has done in the field using the 7/8 Habits for Army Families to strengthen relationships and build stronger, trusting communication during these difficult times."
Chaplain (Colonel) Brian Crane, US Army (Retired)
"Steve is a focused and mature chaplain who consistently provides ministry in difficult situations. He is an example to his peers and a council to leaders of all levels. His presence is an inspiration and motivates those around him. While Steve was my student he worked well with his peers and showed a great willingness to learn and grow. Steve knows how to function well in the complex environment of military ministry and demonstrates ease is pluralistic and multidisciplinary settings. I believe he will thrive in any challenging milieu."
Chaplain Dean Dyk, Clinical Pastoral Educator (Retired)
"Steve was one of my Clinical Pastoral Education residents, He persevered through his residency in spite of having some peers who were difficult and dropped out of the residency. He has gone on to serve in Army chaplaincy and has kept in touch, so I have watched him steadily progress in his competency as a chaplain and grow in his pastoral authority and presence. I highly recommend him for his position in correctional chaplaincy, having served in state corrections myself for 6 years."
Theological Research Exchange Network : e-docs If you are a client I will email it to you.
The way I remember it is DADBA, not in any particular order:
D enial
A nger
D epression
B argaining
A cceptance
5 stages of grief: Coping with the loss of a loved one - Harvard Health
A ctivating event
B elief
C onsequence
D ispute (and Deal with it)
E ffective emotions, etc.
- Healthier relationships.
- Improved mental health.
- Less anxiety, stress and hostility.
- Fewer symptoms of depression.
- Lower blood pressure.
- A stronger immune system.
- Improved heart health.
- Improved self-esteem.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
Assess, accept, adapt, appreciate and ask for feedback
Secure Attachment: The Foundation of Trust
Avoidant Attachment: Independence Over Vulnerability
Anxious Attachment: Reassurance and Validation
Disorganized Attachment: Fearful-Avoidant
Understanding The Four Attachment Styles In A Relationship | USU
Change is constant and certain. ... You have to want to change. ... You are the expert in your life. ... You already have the resources to overcome your problems. ... Therapy can be short-term. ... Focus on what's possible, not what's impossible. ... It's all about solutions.
Trepper (2010) Solution focused therapy treatment manual for working with individuals.pdf
3 kinds of questions . . . are identified with this approach.
1. Miracle question
2. Exception question
3. Scaling question
Handbook of EMDR and Family Therapy Processes by Francine Shapiro, page 54 (Wiley and Sons. 2007)
Discover our strengths
Enhanced interpersonal relationships
Increased willingness to ask for and accept help
Increased willingness to be vulnerable
Increased recognition of social supports that have previously been ignored
Increased apprecation of life
Increased ability to "take it easy"
Newly found interests or passions
Spiritual discoveries
(Schwartz,2020)
Observe, Orient, Decide, Act
Decision-Making Inside the CIA Counterterrorism Center Before, During and After 9/11 — OODAloop